Are husbands frightened of what’s expected of them from wife’s submission?

Many people know that the Bible instructs wives to submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22-24). Therefore, based on that, they form the conclusion that this passage of the Bible is outdated and misogynistic, which in turn contributes to today’s societal ills (namely domestic violence against women).

But unfortunately, the subsequent verses (particularly Ephesians 5:25) are often overlooked and the meanings missed, resulting in the false belief that the Bible is promoting misogyny and male oppression of women. But the truth is, once you understand the full implications of verse 25, you will see why it is very frightening to men.

So, let’s dive in and look at verses 25,

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

Are you ready to hear the man-frightening implications of verse 25?

For those who are not familiar with the Bible, this verse may not mean much to you. But let me cut straight to the chase for you. In essence, it means that husbands are to love their wives so much that they are expected to sacrifice their lives for their wives should the need arises!

The love in verse 25 is a self-sacrificial love. If a husband loves his wife so much that he’s willing to die for her, do you think he will:

  • Attack her physically?
  • Abuse her emotionally?
  • Hurt her in any way?
  • Expect her to serve him like a king?
  • Expect his needs to take precedence over hers?
  • Thinks he is more important than her?
  • Make her cry?
  • Make her live in fear?
  • Dominate her?
  • Oppress her?

The answers are all categorically “No”!

A husband who is willing to lay down his life for his wife will also:

  • Protect her
  • Strengthen her emotionally
  • Make sure no one hurts her
  • Serves her like a queen
  • Put her needs above his
  • Put her in higher priority than her
  • Make her joyful
  • Cast fear away from her heart
  • Magnify her
  • Give in to her

If a husband can’t do all these things, it is very hard to believe that he has the courage to die for her.

So, let’s put a stop to the nonsense that the Bible is promoting misogyny in Ephesians 5:22-24. If men fully understand the gravity of the subsequent verses, they will be frightened by God’s expectation of them.

About Terence Kam

Terence’s profile picture is made up of the two archaic Chinese characters for the word 'inspiration' (灵感 or 靈感). The literal Chinese translation of these two characters means 'spirit perception', which is very apt for the meaning of 'inspirit'.

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